Re: Lighting Design Plan Help?
There are three categories of lighting: Ambient/general; task; mood. Cans in the ceiling are very good as ambient light, but are less effective as mood lighting unless very significantly dimmed (and $$$ to dim Fluor), and fail at task lighting unless you are willing to have your ceilings look like swiss cheese, and bear the burden of that expense (nice trims for 5" cans run $12/each).
Kitchens are IMO the only rooms to require the demo and expense of fitting out with cans, and even then the non-historical look may rule it out for some. (I like the 13 @ 5"/4" ceiling cans in my kitchen)
For bedrooms and living rooms chandeliers and table/floor lamps give the right look and maintain flexibility and keep costs reasonable.
Some indirect lighting, if possible, can be great mood lighting and reinforce architectural details in important rooms.
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